MANILA - Television host-actress Kris Aquino never thought that she would get the chance to have a heart-to-heart talk with her former husband, basketball player James Yap, during the seventh birthday celebration of their son Bimby.In their conversation, aired on "Kris TV" on Friday, Aquino shared how she found in her heart how she was able to forgive Yap.
"May nagtanong sa akin bakit bukas ang isipan mo at ginusto mong maayos kay James, simple lang ang sagot diyan. Dumaan kami sa proseso ng pagiging man and wife, pinakasalan niya ako, na-annul man ang kasal na 'yon ay dumaan kami sa point na sumumpa kami na magiging kami.
So 'yung iba 'yung, I don't know if you will agree with me, pero iba ang meaning noon. There was a man at one point in my life who loved me enough to marry me. Maybe that love did not survive, but I will always be grateful," she said.
Aquino became emotional as she shared the lessons she learned from her past marriage.
"Ipinaintindi sa akin ng panahon na hindi dapat puro galit ang nasa puso ko. Kasi pareho naman kaming nagkamali. Lahat ng pagkakamali ko doon, bitbit ko ngayon kasi 'yun na ang lessons ng buhay ko," she said.
"Alam ko din naman na pinahirapan ko ang buhay ni James Yap in the same way na sinasaktan niya ang puso ko at araw, 'di ba? Pero that's all in the past kasi we can really be friends.
At 'yun, sincere ako doon at sana sikapin mo na kaibiganin ako kasi 'yun ang makakabuti kay Bimb. Alam mo naman na ang emotions ni Bimb nanggagaling sa kung ano ang pinapakita ko sa kanya at nung pinapakita kong galit pa ako sa iyo, galit din siya.
"Ngayon pinapakita ko na, 'no Bimb, it's OK, you should love your Papa. You should respect your papa and honor him.' OK na. Sana ay nakikita mo at ina-appreciate mo din na tinutulak ko siya para mapalapit sa iyo. Sorry wala pong meaning ang pag-iyak ko na ito, I just hope na nakikita niyo na it's really been a journey," Aquino added.
Yap, for his part, said he is thankful that Aquino is trying her best to help him get close to their son.
"Ako may pagkakamali ako at nag-sorry ako sa kanya. Of course naiintindihan ko 'yon, kahit anong sorry mo sa isang tao kapag galit siya, nakakatakot talaga. Then naramdaman ko naman na ibang-iba na si Bimb sa akin, nag-effort din si Kris na sinabi niya sa anak ko na kailangang i-love mo na ang Papa mo. Thank you sa iyo," he said.
Kris's request
Now that they are trying their best to be good parents to Bimby, Aquino said she has a special request to her former husband.
"Magre-request lang ako sa iyo and I am doing it on cam now. And I hope you don't mind na 'yung luma nating pictures huwag mo nang ipinapakita sa kanya (Bimby), lahat ng luma nating pictures sa phone mo, baka pag-awayan niyo pa ng girlfriend mo. Pinapakita mo raw lahat. Kasi 'di ba, please don't confuse him further," Aquino said.
"Magre-request din ako sa iyo na huwag mo nang sinasabi na 'I love your mom because she is your mom.' Kasi pag-uwi niya sa bahay sinasabi niya, 'my papa is still in love with you.' So huwag mo nang i-confuse.
We don't have to love each other, we just have to respect each other. Klaro yon. I respect your mom, bongga yon. Kasi hindi ba, respeto na tayo sa mga bago sa buhay natin," she explained.
Yap replied, saying: "Hindi kasi gusto ko lang sabihin sa kanya na ganito tayo dati, ganito ang mama at papa niya. Baka isipin niya na puro away tayo lagi."
